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Wellness Wednesday: How to Prevent Negative Thoughts From Taking Over Your Life

“I'm not good enough.”

“I’m too old.”

“Everyone else is better than me.”

“I’m not as good as I used to be.”

I hear these statements a lot and I wonder just how often they are thought without being projected to the outside world. I have met so many people that are constantly negative that it just radiates the feeling to everyone around them.

We all know a friend or family member who puts off such constant negative vibes they may cause us to shudder when we see them out places or at gatherings. In severe cases, we may avoid the person altogether.

Negative people are zen zappers! Soul suckers! Visualization vampires! Toxic relationships are bred from constant negative thoughts.

On the other side of the spectrum, the negative person may be YOU and you might not even know it. Some people have habitually created automatic negative thoughts to help them cope with things in their lives or even make other people feel the same way they do so it makes them feel better. This can really drag down relationships and communities.   

If you are the person that uses statements like those found at the beginning of this piece, please try to refrain. Healthy habits can be adopted as easily as bad ones. Most people just believe the opposite.

If you think:

“Im not good enough.” Try, “I’m doing the best I can right now.”   

“I’m too old.” It's never too late to try new things. You may just have to do them differently. Try, “I'm willing to give it my best shot, safely.”

“Everyone else is better than me.” Stop it. Stop comparing yourself to everyone. This is a major problem in our culture. Just do something and enjoy it.  

“I’m not as good as I used to be.” This may be true. There's nothing wrong with that but it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy doing things that you have before. Each moment is different than the one before it. Environmental factors change everything. Stop worrying and start enjoying. Be more child-like.   

If you are the constant negative person, here are a few things you can try that may make you feel better that you can do without others judging you:

  • Go to a craft store and buy some paint. Go home and get creative. Get messy. Heck Jackson Pollack is incredibly popular to some people. You never have to even show your work.
  • Create a journal of things that make you happy. Every time you add something to it, read it from start to finish.
  • Watch happy television or comedies if you are a television buff. Same goes for books. Stop with all the horror and drama.
  • Talk with a professional on uncovering why you're so negative or unhappy.
  • Try Restricted Environmental Stimulus Technique. These float tank sessions allow you to connect and focus on your thoughts without being constantly bombarded by society and  marketing. Think 60-90 minutes won't allow you to change?  Well, it's 60-90 minutes you may never have had to focus on your internal feelings without distractions. It can be profound. For more information and research, check out www.unwindwith.us.

I hope some of these can help you to negate constant negative thoughts. What have you tried that makes you feel less negative?

- Joe Daniels is the owner of SwingThis Kettlebell and Strength Studio in Latonia. Questions for Joe? E-mail him at [email protected].

Bored with bodybuilding after reaching the national level in 2009, Joe Daniels opened SwingThis Kettlebell and Strength. From becoming an IKFF Coach operating in an 800 sq. ft. studio, the benefits of a minimal yet highly effective approach to fitness has grown to a 5,500 sq. ft. functional training facility within four years. 

Focusing on injury prevention, competitive kettlebell sport training and stress relief, SwingThis Kettlebell and Strength has hosted seminars and trained hands-on with some of the top athletes and coaches of the kettlebell world. Their philosophy has remained the same: You have to enjoy your training at all stages. Live your life. Your training should make your life outside that time more enjoyable and fulfilling.

Photo: Joe Daniels tries his hand an angling (provided)